If you believe that God has a plan for your life and have known you were gay since childhood, you obviously didn't choose to be gay. If mere people knew so much, why wouldn't their lives be perfect?

And having other people insist they know God's plan for our lives just creates confusion and self-hatred. It takes time to adjust to the reality that we're inherently gay. If it's any consolation, most of us grew up hoping we'd fall in love, get married, have kids and live the dream. Unless you had yours surgically altered so you could be gay, you're no more responsible for your sexual orientation than a straight man is for his. There have been studies that show that gay men have brain stems that are structurally different from those of straight men. That's what's really meant by the quote, 'Judge not, lest ye be judged.' It's fair to judge the actions of other people, but not their souls. Throughout history, people have found many ridiculous reasons to condemn people to hell, including skin color, nationality and sexual orientation. You're gay because that's the way God wanted you to be.